Are you having trouble motivating your kids to do chores? Age-appropriate chore charts for kids might be the answer!
Adding some responsibility into your (step) child’s life can be trying at times, especially if you are the stepmom. In a lot of ways, we are expected to step back from discipline but still manage from afar.
I’m a firm believer in letting kids be kids, play and have fun, but I also believe they need to learn the value of hard work, helping others, using good manners and overall good hygiene. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to check Nikolai’s toothbrush to see if he’s used it recently!
When we first implemented chores in our home, I let my husband “suggest” the idea to Nikolai, with a reward attached. So, if you are looking for a way to introduce the idea, that’s a great option that worked for us.
During the school year, we direct his chores to help him achieve in school and overall. For example, Nikolai has to complete his homework, keep his room clean, do his own laundry and keep tabs on all school projects.
We do not do last minute school projects or bend over backwards to protect him from the consequences of his actions or lack of planning.
Allowing kids to endure their own consequences related to their own actions and choices teaches them responsibility for their words, actions and choices.
Chore Ideas for Kids
Now that school is around the corner, we’ve been thinking a lot about the chores Nikolai can do around the house to help us out. He’s been very helpful this summer, so we think he’s ready for a bit more responsibility.
The charts already include great chore ideas to get you started, but you can also add in your own chores and set a point and reward system to keep your kiddos on task and motivated.
What chores should a 12 year old be doing?
Kids 10 and up should be able to:
- Unload dishwasher.
- Fold laundry.
- Clean bathroom.
- Wash car.
- Do laundry.
How do you motivate kids to do chores?
A reward system! Implement a system that requires the child to reach a goal, then they receive a reward. They don’t always have to be physical items like toys, candy or money. Good reward ideas can also be a trip to the beach or a fun museum, a dinner of choice or a visit to the local pet shelter to play with the pups (but watch out, you might end up bringing a pooch home!).
You can start each week with 0 points, then as they complete their chores, the points add up. After they reach a certain point-level, they receive a reward.
Tip: Let them choose the reward. It will be even more motivation!
Reward ideas for completing chores:
- A day at their favorite theme park
- Movie date with one or both parents
- Dinner out at a favorite restaurant
Chores for Kids by Age
It’s important to slowly ease your kids into chores that are simple to complete but provide a bit of a challenge.
For toddlers, things like washing their hands before every meal, eating a good breakfast and picking up their toys are great chores to start with. It will teach them about eating healthy, hygiene and putting things back where they were after using them.
For kids who are four to six years old, a great weekly chore to add is to make time to help others or share toys. At this age, they’re either in or will be starting school so adding chores that encourage empathy and good social skills is very valuable.
For older kids, chores that build good study habits and teach them about being responsible for the care and well-being of others are essential. This can include reading for at least 30 minutes every night, and caring for a pet or even a plant.
Once you implement a chore chart with your kiddo, just remember to patient, set clear expectations and make learning a priority. Make a chore chart that’s fun, engaging and that works well with your family’s routine––that will be your key to consistency!