As a mom or stepmom, it seems like we push ourselves to the bottom of the list. You put your kids, husband, and household first, leaving you little time for yourself.
The big problem with that: You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Why is Self Care Important for Mothers?
Being the best parent we can be is our biggest priority, right? Well, we can’t serve our families well if we are a hot mess express.
Self care is important for our physical, mental and emotional health. When we take time for ourselves, even at a few minutes a day, we can greatly improve our moods, health and emotions.
What is the Purpose of Self Care?
It’s not checking out. It’s checking in and checking on yourself. Many moms talk about feelings of guilt whether they take a whole weekend or a few minutes of alone time. I’m here to give you permission to check out!
It’s a hard balance, but once you realize that the purpose of self care is actually selfless, you will be more in tune to why and how you can take more time for you.
What are some Self Care Ideas?
There are so many things you can do just to take a few minutes to yourself… even if it’s sitting in the driveway for 5 minutes with your eyes closed.
If you need a little nudge to get you thinking, here are a few things you can do to practice self care right now.
1. Schedule Time for Yourself
I see you, you planner aficionado! Open that bad boy up and schedule time for yourself. Actually getting something on the books always reminds me to take care of me.
It could be as small as stopping for a cup of coffee while running errands. Or a nightly bath to relax after a long day of shuttling kids around.
When you schedule time for yourself, you’re more likely to actually take time for yourself!
2. Prioritize Your “Me” Time
If you’re a morning person, get up an hour or so before the rest of the household. Take a shower, enjoy a cup of coffee while watching the sunrise, go for a morning jog, etc. Do something that makes you happy.
Quiet time is my spirit animal… and so are early mornings. There’s something about savoring the moment before the world gets busy and loud that makes my day run so much smoother. I like to listen to light, peaceful music, and slowly transition into the day. I feel so much more connected to my higher power and the better part of myself.
If mornings aren’t your thing, burn the midnight oil and stay up a little later. I am not a night-owl, so I know staying up later for “me” time isn’t gonna happen. But, if this is you, take this time to watch one of your favorite shows on Netflix or curl up with a good book.
4. Find Quiet Time
Even if it’s just sitting in the car in silence (with the car off, please!), everyone needs time for themselves. It doesn’t require a yoga mat or anything else!
I find that taking even five minutes and listening to my own thoughts can really help me get back on the path to taking care of myself and family.
The world gets noisy! Slow it down and let your thoughts come and go. Recognize the tension in your body, your breathing, your thoughts… When you feel ready, jump back in the game.
5. Learn to Say No
I used to be so bad at this! One of the reasons why we feel so frazzled and rattled is we say yes to everything… even the stuff we hate.
Sometimes we need to say “no” to the things that don’t bring us joy. Whether it’s an event with a high-conflict bio parent, or person, knowing when and how to say no is so much better for our health than making everyone around us happy. You cannot make everyone happy. You are not wine/pizza/cheese/chocolate.
Declining events doesn’t make you a bad person. Find a happy medium of events you want to attend and events you should attend (we all have ‘em), and don’t overbook yourself in one weekend or day. Allowing you AND your family time to recharge before the next event is crucial to happiness and avoiding meltdowns from little ones..and even adults.
6. Treat Yourself
Yes ma’am, you heard me. Treating yourself is fun and rejuvenating! Tell your husband and kids, “mom will be back soon.” and enjoy a few hours to yourself doing something you love. Even if it’s locking yourself in your bathroom to do your hair… take advantage of some of the things you never get to do.
My favorite: a pedicure. I’ve actually cut wayy back on my salon visits to save cash, but that means they are all the more enjoyable.
Allowing yourself to recharge and rejuvenate is so important, especially as busy-ness is over glorified and glamorized. Slow life down and take a few minutes to yourself. It will make you a better mom, wife and human. Take time to refill your cup each day.
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