Survive homework with your child without the tears, yelling and frustrations.
What’s the answer to getting our kids excited, or at least willing, to do homework? The short answer is that there is no short answer. But, I can give you a little homework help for your kids and a few tips to survive the battle at home!
Nikolai is now in middle school which means his homework and responsibility load is heavier than ever. He is a part of the advanced academic program in our school system, which provides more challenging work to the students. With a humble brag and a slice of humble pie, it’s both a blessing and sometimes a curse.
Even with his smarts, it’s still a battle to complete and end sentences with the appropriate features…and to keep him interested. See, he can tell you all about every battle ship, airplane, combat thingamajig and space station, but when it comes to beginning a sentence with a capital letter and ending it with punctuation, the concept is lost!
Helping Your Child with Homework as a Stepmom
As a stepmom, there’s a fine line we have to walk when it comes to really digging in. There are many publications that tell stepmoms to steer clear of the nitty gritty with the kids. If you find your interventions are making things worse or more difficult, step back a little, but I wouldn’t throw in the towel over a little push-back. Personally, I’m the tough guy when it comes to completing and following through on homework assignments.
Here’s where teamwork comes into play: Tag team the homework with your husband. See, I am not in the numbers game. I took algebra in college and basically left it there. I use a calculator for everything, but I can spell Supercalifragalisticexpealidociuos backwards. However, Taras is a mathematical genius and can crunch numbers in his head…without a pen. *gasp*
SO… I let Taras take the math and science, and I swoop in for the writing and reading portions. It works well for us. I would encourage parents to take this approach if they feel they are coming up short in some subjects.
Here’s your virtual glass of vino, (step)mommas around the world! Right there with ya!
How to Motivate A Child to do Homework
…and then the world laughed and laughed! 🙂 Motivation for homework is as simple as your motivation to go to the gym on a cold morning. Right?
You might not be able to motivate per say, but you can make this whole homework conundrum a little less painful. I’ve got a few tips that have really worked for us during a homework session.
Tips for Helping Kids with Homework:
- Take it Down Low. Not the expectations, but the noise level and eye level. When you are looking your child in the eyes and speaking in a calm tone (Lord help us!), the tension will dissolve. I’ve found no matter how frustrated I become, if I lower my volume and intensity, things tend to run a lot smoother.
- Ask your child questions about his answers. Provoking thought behind each answer is two-fold: Your child learns how he came to the answer and he will learn that you expect an explanation for the answers. It’s a great way to see those wheels moving.
- Persevere. Even though you might be ready for a vat of wine after your homework session or ready to pass your kid the ultimate list of cheats, persevere and let your child know that you two are a team! The family works together, but he is required to do his own share. It’s team work!
There have been so many changes since I became a part of this family team. But with perseverance and patience, we generally get through the homework assignment tear-free!
What tips have you tried to survive nights of endless nights of homework sessions?
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